Leadership, Power, The Essentials June 6, 2017

Showing up, mid-life & Being You

Some time ago, I read a post by Brené Brown with the quote below, and with it was a gorgeous photo of the British actress, Helen Mirren. It was utterly inspiring, this idea, to be exactly who you are, unapologetically. I imagined the calm, sophisticated, powerful, British voice of Dame Helen speaking these words (and btw…she’s 72):

“I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:

I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.

Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever.

Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.”

Brené Brown

Yes ma’am.

There really isn’t much more that needs to be said about that.

I will add a few things about Showing Up. Bringing yourself to life. Myself being smack dab in the middle of mid-life, a place that always seemed so far awaaaaayyyyyy —

Well, we’re here. It is time. There is no other time than right now. Whether you’re in mid-life, quarter-life or any other place on the timeline of life, we are being called to Show Up.

That pull you feel? Towards something, away from something, a kind of swishing back and forth, whatever it is for you, it’s Life trying to get your attention. It can be unsettling, unconformable, exhilarating and downright painful at times.

Stay in it. Do the work of release and strengthening, consistently. Expansion, contraction. Life, death, life cycles. Burn it all down, or put some things aside, and begin again. And again.

If you give it space, get quiet, lean toward it and listen, Life is telling you that You are right where you should be. All of the things that have happened and are happening are part of your fabric, your armor, but they are not You.

You, dear one, are enough. You, dear one, have everything thing you need right now. It’s there, the wild call of your soul to progress. To move forward.

With freedom to be and freedom to act without constraint. How your wild call looks to others is of no concern. We need You, in all your radiance, with your outside voice, to show up.

You have the power to do anything you desire . . . IF. . . you actually know what your desires are.

Let’s take a look :: Where are you right now? What’s it like for you? To be you? Are you experiencing meaning? Going through the motions? Do you feel like you are a contribution? Do you care?

What are you committed to?

What are you giving your life to?

The world was never moved by a passing complaint.

Or the question, “But how do I do that?” Or the thought, “But I can’t do that.”

You matter.

Show us how.

All my love and devotion,